Mothercentered

Jessica Tomich Sorci
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Even good moms have a breaking point. Even good moms have needs and limitations. Even good moms have nervous systems that respond and react. And those nervous systems deserve good care. Join therapist Jessica Tomich Sorci in conversations with moms and maternal mental health practitioners as they explore their inner worlds through an Internal Family Systems approach, gaining compassion, insight, and connection. Jessica is an IFS Certified therapist, maternal mental health expert and creator of the Mom Parts Method. For more information or to join The Mom Parts Community, go to momparts.com

  1. 3d ago

    The Struggle to Say No With Tammy Sollenberger

    "I don't want to say no because that causes disconnection, right? So my parts are like don't say no. So I'm going to say this pretend yes with all this resentment which causes even more disconnection." —Tammy Sollenberger On this episode we're talking about the struggle to say no with Tammy Sollenberger. Caretaking parts automatically accommodate and say yes, even when it doesn't serve us. We were raised as little girls to be nice and listen, and those parts are still here protecting us from disconnection. The paradox: we say yes to avoid disconnection, but a pretend yes with resentment underneath creates even more disconnection. Our kids can feel the incongruence. Resentment is a compromise between authenticity and caretaking. It's what happens when we say yes but mean no, using passive-aggressiveness to signal our real feelings without actually expressing them. Disempowerment keeps us from expressing our authentic truth. The grief of not being able to show up as ourselves, even when we know who we are and what we want. Coming back to center is a practice. Taking a breath, pausing, and returning to yourself creates space to hear what you actually want, not just what everyone else needs from you. Tammy Sollenberger: https://tammysollenberger.com My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

  2. Aug 24

    The Blamer

    "The blamer is protecting the feeling of being unloved. In my system, to be loved, you have to get it right. And I'm undoing that conditioning, but it's still there." - Hannah Enright On this episode we're talking about Blamer Parts with Hannah Enright. The Blamer is here to manage shame. It kicks shame away by projecting it onto someone else, especially when things don't go to plan with kids or in attachment relationships. It's a lightning-quick reactive response. The Blamer often originates in childhood when we experienced a lot of pointing out flaws and deficit focus, not positive feedback. This creates a part that believes you have to get it right to be loved. Slowing it down enough to unblend from the Blamer is key, because it becomes such an automatic reaction. It's not a thoughtful response. When the Blamer activates, it’s experiencing a threat to connection with an attachment figure. Your nervous system is in fight or flight, protecting against being unloved. You can be wrong and still be lovable. In fact, you're going to make mistakes and get things wrong. There's an opportunity now to communicate to the child inside: it's safe, you're loved anyway. Hannah Enright is a clinical social worker with over 20 years of experience working with women in support of reproductive and maternal mental health, as well as providing clinical services for children and families in community settings and private practice. She is certified in EMDR and the Safe and Sound Protocol, and has studied IFS, Polyvagal theory and somatic practices as complementary modalities. My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

  3. Aug 10

    Adoption, Abandonment and Belonging

    "To think about what our ancestors have been through. The fact that we are even here, in our body, is a miracle." —Sara Putney On this episode we're talking about adoption, abandonment and belonging with Sara Putney. Adoption creates a disconnection from belonging. The need to understand where we come from runs deep, and motherhood often prompts us to explore lineages of abandonment When moms show up in motherhood without enough resources, without a sense of belonging or safety: how do we help them get what they need? Receptivity is medicine, and it runs directly against the self-sacrifice that comes with patriarchal motherhood, where we've been taught to give endlessly Somatic breathwork journeys help us understand our core wounds and our innate wellness while reconnecting us with the miracle of existence Coming back into our bodies means returning to the wisdom that's always been there. When we're seeking belonging outside ourselves, our bodies can bring us home Sara Putney, Body-led Prosperity Professional http://remotheringmamas.com My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

  4. Jul 27

    Controlling Mom Parts

    "What I notice when I'm not kind of helicoptering—the relationship between my son and I is so much better. He appreciates the fact that I trust him." —Karen McWilliam On this episode we're talking about Controlling Mom Parts as well as mothering teenagers with Karen McWilliam. Your Controller is trying to preserve your identity as a good mom by managing your child's success The Controller works overtime because it's protecting parts of you that feel like you aren't good enough Kids know when we're not genuinely seeing them—they feel our lack of trust and create distance The paradox of good parenting: your reward for doing it well is that they leave and don't need you anymore Karen is a trained IFSI (Internal Family Systems Institute) Level 2 Practitioner, IFIO (Couples Counsellor) and is a Canadian Certified Perinatal Mental Health Practitioner (CC-PMH), Canadian Certified Birth & Reproductive Trauma Practitioner (CC-BRT), and Canadian Certified Perinatal Grief & Loss Practitioner (CC-PGL). She has been in private practice for over 20 years as a certified Birth & Postpartum Doula and specializes in supporting birthing families who have experienced trauma in their previous birth journeys and/or VBAC/HBACs.  Connect with her at info@transitionings.ca My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

  5. Jul 13

    The Ubiquitous Inner Critic: The Mom Part That’s Everywhere, All the Time With Jillian Perry

    "There's this pressure to get it right—to get down on their level, talk to them in the right tone, be so regulated ourselves—that it creates this perfectionism. That voice of criticism saying 'this is how you have to do it to be a ‘good mom.’ —Jillian Perry On this episode we're talking about Inner Critic Parts with Jillian Perry. Your inner critic is a carbon copy of people who found fault with you as a child—it mimics their harsh tone to ensure you don't fail or embarrass yourself, especially in your mothering The inner critic shows up everywhere: in hard moments with kids, in how we feed them, in finding the "right" way to parent—it's littered with all the "shoulds" Cycle breaking can lose its soul when taken over by the inner critic—it becomes another task on the to-do list, and ironically, the critic perpetuates the same pain it's trying to prevent How you get to a parenting decision matters more than the decision itself—the same choice can come from your inner critic's "shoulds" or from your inner mom's values and care The inner critic is closely tied to shame, which is a major player in all psychological distress—where there's shame, there's the critic Jillian Perry: https://www.jillianperrylmft.com/  My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

  6. Jun 29

    You Reap What You Sow

    From my album Sticks & Stones, this song is about having to be firm with boundaries in my relationship with my mom, who was abusive and alcoholic. It's very much about my own healing and health - and how hard it is to differentiate from a mom who tells you you're terrible. A central theme explores how our relationships reflect our own feelings and beliefs, and how we create our own reality in some ways. The chorus reminds us: "You get what you give, that's just how it is. Love is conditional." This song captures the painful work of setting boundaries with someone who shaped your earliest sense of self, and the journey toward understanding that the love we receive is often a mirror of what we're able to give—to ourselves and others. My album Sticks & Stones by Red Letter is available wherever you stream music. My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

  7. Jun 15

    Motherhood and Midlife Wisdom

    "Midlife is this time where we are ready to bring all the wisdom we've collected through the years, gather that up and integrate it, and bring it out into the world more fully as our authentic true gifts." —Daphne Ogle On this episode we're talking about midlife, motherhood, and trusting ourselves with Daphne Ogle. Midlife women are the people who will make the much-needed shift in the world - the shift to power with, to being in love and presence, gathering all our wisdom and bringing it out authentically So many women carry the old story "I have to do it all myself." When motherhood hits, there's so much more to do, we struggle and fall apart and shame keeps us from talking about it. The "soul toothache" is when who you are becoming doesn't fit your life anymore; it's painful, but it's the starting point for deep transformational work. Coming back to yourself isn't reinvention - it's gathering all the pieces of yourself, integrating them, and asking "now what from here?" We can't always change the systems, but we can honor people's uniqueness—helping them crack their own code so they make sense to themselves in a world where they don't always feel like they belong Daphne Ogle Transformational Coach | Soul-Aligned Life + Work Design Guidewww.daphneoglecoaching.com | 510-846-8237

  8. Jun 1

    Mama Bear

    "I remember my therapist pointed out I was using very strong words, like I was preparing for battle. That really shocked me. But yeah, I was feeling protective over my space, over my baby's experience. That was Mama Bear. She was sharpening her claws." —Cassie Blom On this episode we're talking about Mama Bear parts with Cassie Blom. Mama Bear shows up with physical and emotional power to guard what needs protection—but she doesn't always know the difference between discomfort and actual threat. Mama Bear is critical in transforming us from people-pleasing girls into mothers who can say "f**k that, I am this child's mother, get out of my way." Getting curious about what Mama Bear perceives as threatening and to whom (you? baby? your childhood self?) helps her relax and allows other energy in. Until Mama Bear feels validated and heard, she's going to run things—we have to get soft and squishy with her, pull up a seat, and become her ally. Mama Bear can help us understand our values—she often reacts to values we didn't even know we held so tightly, and threats to those values. Cassie Blom: www.cassieblom.com. My book When Good Moms Feel Bad is available everywhere you buy books. For more information and to join the community go to momparts.com

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Even good moms have a breaking point. Even good moms have needs and limitations. Even good moms have nervous systems that respond and react. And those nervous systems deserve good care. Join therapist Jessica Tomich Sorci in conversations with moms and maternal mental health practitioners as they explore their inner worlds through an Internal Family Systems approach, gaining compassion, insight, and connection. Jessica is an IFS Certified therapist, maternal mental health expert and creator of the Mom Parts Method. For more information or to join The Mom Parts Community, go to momparts.com

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  • Creator
    Jessica Tomich Sorci
  • Years Active
    2026
  • Episodes
    20
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jessica Tomich Sorci
  • Show Website
    Mothercentered

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